Ok, so here's the deal. I want to start living as Hannah by August and hormones by December. The problem is my mom. I'm sure she will be supportive of me, but the problem is that I don't want to add more stress to her already stressful life. The last thing she needs in her life right now is to hear that her son wants to be her daughter. I have been told by my therapist and friends time and time again that this can't be about anyone else but me. What will make me happy. It sounds selfish to me. Any comments?
-Hannah
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ReplyDeleteIt's true you ultimately have to live your life for yourself, but I think the concept of selfishness is pretty complicated... Pretty much everything we do is for ourselves, even if only because we feel good doing things for people that otherwise we wouldn't feel good doing!
ReplyDeleteI know, that's not helpful.
How about, rather than the absolute (and abstract) measures of "selfish" or "selfless", try to minimize harm? ("An it harm none"...) But then the question becomes one of fault. If you caused your mom distress by telling her, is that your fault, or hers for holding faulty beliefs?
Ok, still not helpful. I think I'll stop before I did myself in any deeper!