First off,
My paycheck successfully went into my account at Vantage West. Good to know that my financial situation is more or less stabilizing.
I really want to thank Katie and Susan for their comments on my Friday post. Sometimes I forget to check it.
As I need to convince Mom that this is the best for me, I have come up with a plan that involves something tangible. I am going to write a letter with empty name fields for my friends to fill out, supporting me and my transition.
Anyway, English class is starting so I guess I should start paying attention.
-Hannah
That sounds like a really great idea!! Can I sign virtually?? <3 <3
ReplyDeleteI just want to encourage you to focus on the things that YOU need right now. You have to come to a point where you accept that your parent may never be the mother that you need or want right now. Many parents come around after the shock has worn off and they've been to some support groups 'n whatnot, but I really want to emphasize that you shouldn't have expectations in terms of a response from her. See it as a growing and supportive process for yourself, not as an effort to try to get her to change, rather as tangible evidence that you have loads of loving, supportive people around you. I understand that nothing can or will ever beat the love and affection from your Mom and it is a HUGE let down to be treated this way, but you can't wait around for the rest of your life for her to get her shit together nor can you place all of your self-esteem, confidence and happiness in her validation. This, of course, doesn't mean that you don't love her. You're just refusing to love her to the point of hurting yourself and sacrificing your needs. It is SO important that you find personal empowerment in your transition and NOT in the reaction that you get from unhealthy people.
-Susie